I’ve been agonising over the past month or so.. about making a very tough decision in our lives.
The boys in the household have had hay fever and Nad has a history of asthma and gets mild attacks almost every night.
The main cause for this is dust and animal fur, especially cats’ fur. Cats’ dander and saliva is proven to cause more allergies than dogs’ and is also much finer, therefore tends to float around the air more so than dogs’ fur.
It breaks my heart to see Nad as well as little Chubbs sniffing. I too, get hay fever when I get close to Kelly. I cannot imagine how I used to share the same bed with the little kitty before marriage! Maybe you get de-immunised when you are apart from an animal for a long time?
With a very heavy heart, I placed an ad on Ravelry to rehome my dearest Kelly cat.

It must have been God’s will as a very nice lady responded within half a day.
I spoke with her over the phone and agreed to bring Kelly to her home.
2 days ago, we finally packed up Kelly’s belongings and put her into the crate, the same crate that carried her from Singapore to here, and some of her toys and a towel that has both the dogs’ and her smell on it.
It was probably be the last car trip she’ll have with us. (She HATES to travel as it stresses her out.. she meows non-stop in the car.)

As soon as I met the family, I knew that Kelly was going to a good home.
The two young boys (10 and 13 years old) are very gentle and loving towards Kelly. They’ve had a cat all their lives but she was recently run over by a car. She was deaf due to her old age and couldn’t hear the vehicle approaching.
Kelly would get to do the things she used to be able to in their house – sleep with them on their beds, have full roam around the house instead of being confined to only the laundry area of our home.
In many ways, I have let Kelly down.
She used to be able to share the same bed as I but she obviously can’t now.
With two young kids, I’ve slackened even more with housework and can’t keep up with vacuuming the house every second day. This aggravates the furry situation in the house.
I used to be able to wash the laundry area where the pets are kept every other weekend as well but have found it harder to do so recently.
At least, the dogs have the yard to play in and they go on car rides and romps in the parks often with us. Our church is connected to a park land and they come with us on some Saturdays to play after service too.
But Kelly…. is cooped up at home. Watching longingly at the windows, looking out at the yard where the dogs get to play.

It’s not fair for a cat to be kept like this.
I know I have always been a strong advocate on responsible ownership. That ‘a pet is for life’ and you commit to the very end. I used to think that children will never come in between pets and I.
I now admit that I’m wrong – that try as I may, I can never juggle 2 young kids with all the other things I have to do and still do everything at 100%.
Don’t get me wrong – I still love Benji, Chiyo and Kelly. But have slackened much with them after the birth of the kids.

I miss her terribly. I’ve shed tears at night especially when I miss her bell tinkling as she prances around.
I miss seeing her cuddling up with Chiyo.
I miss chasing her away from the kitchen when she tries to steal food.
I miss playing with her with string and watching her chase yarn balls as I knit.
I will always remember that when I first felt Sunshine kick me in my tummy, Kelly was sitting on me.
I will always remember how I had to dig her butt to clear out her poop when she first came to us – unable to move her bowels.
I will always remember how we refused to put her to sleep despite vets urging us to do so. “She’ll never be able to poop in her life!” so said a senior vet to us.
I will always remember her loyalty to the dogs. How she refused to eat and was so stressed in quarantine but the moment she saw the dogs at home, she felt at ease and happy again.
(Photo taken in my dad’s house in Singapore.)
Kelly dear…. I would love to keep you until the end. Please understand that to do that, I would be very selfish and unreasonable. And you would be very miserable as well.
Thank you for being so patient and forgiving. And being so gentle with Sunshine… even when she hit you, you did not retaliate.
Thank you for teaching Sunshine to be gentle and kind to animals.
Thank you for sharing your life with us. For mysteriously turning up at Nad’s parent’s doorstep. Your appearance still puzzles us as you couldn’t have got so high up in that building all by yourself.
We will miss you greatly… but we are very sure that you’d be much happier where you are now… and that you can once again, share a bed with another human. We know you are a loving cat who craves human relationships and we are sure that you will get plenty of love in your new home.
We’ve come to learn the hardest lesson in love – letting go.
